When You Know You Need a Change, But Don’t Know Where to Start

There comes a moment in life when you can feel that something is off. Maybe you cannot even describe it, but there is a quiet restlessness, a sense of being stuck, or a heaviness that you carry with you from morning until night. You keep going through the motions, doing what you are supposed to do, fulfilling responsibilities, showing up for others, but deep down, something feels misaligned.

You wake up knowing you want things to be different, but you are not sure what that means. You just know that the way things are now is not how they are meant to be.

At first, you might try to ignore it. You tell yourself that it is just a phase, that you should be grateful, that other people have it worse. You remind yourself of all the reasons you should be happy. And yet, that quiet voice inside keeps whispering, “Something needs to change.”

The hardest part is that when you start to listen to that voice, the outside world often gets louder. Friends, family, or colleagues might not understand what you are feeling. They may tell you that you have everything you need, that you are lucky, that there is no reason to change. You smile and nod, but inside, you feel unseen. You feel alone with your thoughts, as if nobody around you can quite understand what is going on inside you.

You might even start to question yourself. Am I just being ungrateful? Am I imagining this? Why can’t I just be content like everyone else seems to be?

But deep down, a small part of you knows that what you are feeling is real. You know that something inside you is calling for more, not necessarily more success or more material things, but more meaning, more alignment, more authenticity.

The Weight of the In-Between

This in-between phase, the time before the change actually begins, is one of the hardest places to be. It feels heavy, confusing, and isolating. You sense that your old life no longer fits, but you have not yet found the shape of the new one. You feel caught between who you were and who you are becoming.

You may feel tired, even though you are doing less than usual. You may find yourself procrastinating, avoiding decisions, scrolling mindlessly, or filling your time just to escape the discomfort. There might be moments when you feel like you are losing motivation or focus, and even the simplest tasks feel overwhelming.

It is not that you do not care anymore. It is that your mind and heart are pulling in different directions. Your mind wants clarity, plans, and answers, while your heart is whispering for rest, stillness, and truth.

You may also notice that you are more sensitive than usual, that you pick up on energy, on emotions, on unspoken tension. It is all part of your system, preparing for change. When we are on the edge of transition, our awareness deepens. It is as if our inner world starts to expand, and in that expansion, everything that is not in alignment comes to the surface.

Feeling lost or overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’re broken; it means you’re human, and you don’t have to face it alone.

Feeling Alone in the Process

One of the hardest parts of this phase is the loneliness. You might look around and feel that everyone else seems to have it figured out. People talk about goals, plans, and dreams, while you can barely articulate what you are feeling. You may want to reach out to tell someone that you are struggling, but you don’t know what to say or where to begin.

You may fear being judged, or worse, not being understood. So you stay quiet, keeping everything inside. But that silence can feel suffocating. It can slowly turn into self-doubt, and before you know it, you start wondering if maybe something is wrong with you.

This is where the mind often turns against itself. It starts whispering stories of failure, of “not enough,” of hopelessness. You may begin to feel small, invisible, and exhausted.

If this sounds familiar, please know this: nothing is wrong with you. You are not broken. You are not behind. What you are feeling is not the end; it is the beginning. It is the moment before the shift, the space where something inside you is waking up.

What Is Really Happening

This phase of life, as heavy as it feels, is not a breakdown. It is a preparation. Your inner self is trying to guide you toward truth, but it takes time to translate those signals into clear action. That is why you might feel lost or directionless. It is because you are in a space between stories. The old one no longer fits, and the new one is still being written.

Your energy might feel scattered because part of you is still holding onto what is familiar, while another part is already reaching toward something new. That tension can create deep fatigue, confusion, or even a mild sense of depression.

But beneath that fog, something beautiful is happening. You are beginning to wake up.

You are starting to see that the life you were told to want might not be the life that fulfills you. You are beginning to feel the pull toward authenticity, freedom, and meaning. That is the soul’s way of saying, “It is time.”

The First Gentle Step

You do not have to figure it all out today. You do not have to know what comes next. The first step is simply to pause and listen.

Listen to what feels heavy. Listen to what drains you. Listen to what feels empty, or forced, or disconnected. And then, gently, ask yourself: What would feel more like me?

That is where the reset begins, not with a plan or a big decision, but with awareness. With curiosity. With the quiet courage to be honest with yourself.

The reset is about realigning, not starting over. It is about building a life that feels right from the inside out.

You Don’t Know Where to Start? You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

If you are in this space right now and you don’t know where to start, if you feel lost, stuck, or overwhelmed, please know you do not have to walk through it alone. This phase is not a failure; it is the gateway to change.

Sometimes, all it takes is having someone by your side who understands what this space feels like, someone who can help you put words to what you are experiencing, who can guide you gently toward clarity and self-trust.

That is why I created The Reset Project. I help people who are standing at this exact crossroads find their direction again, reconnect with themselves, and move forward with clarity, calm, and confidence.

If you are ready to begin your own reset, to turn confusion into clarity and overwhelm into grounded strength, I can help you take that first step. 🌿